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You may have stumbled upon this post thinking about a bedtime routine for a child. But this is a bedtime routine that I actually follow as an adult. As many of my followers know, last year was a real challenge for me in so many ways. All of which led to my This Is Me: 2018 Resolution Theme .
Nonetheless, with it being a few months into the year I have been able to establish a regular bedtime routine for myself and has been successful in my ability to get a better nights rest.
Sleeping Deeper & Feeling Refreshed
On most days, before I can even get out of my car as I get home from work I am greeted in the garage by my two kids. Collecting my things from the car I ender the kitchen, greet the rest of my family and begin to cook dinner. Afterward, I leave the kitchen with dirty plates, pots, and pans and head upstairs to begin my bedtime routine. washes.
Shout out to all the men who wash dishes! Especially my husband!
In 2018, I decided to be more intentional about taking care of myself. I have found the routine below to work well for me. However, please read my Full Disclaimer because this post is not meant to cure or treat any conditions. And as always, my posts do not contain any affiliate links.
My Bedtime Routine
- Shower – Find a good body wash or soap that you really like. I have always been a fan of Philosophy Pure Grace. I find that taking a shower in the evening helps me to process the day. I almost feel like I am washing away any troubles and sending them right the drain.
- Stop Eating – Our family eats dinner around 6:00 pm and I make an effort not to eat anything afterward. Now I must admit I may have a treat or dessert after dinner every now and then but certainly not every day.
- Essential Oils – My diffuser has served me so well in my bedtime routine! I usually put a few drops of lavender and orange to help me ease into the evening. The scent helps me to further unwind and relax. I have a few favorites and if you are looking for a good one to get started check this out my VAVA Desktop Diffuser Product Review.
- Get Headspace – This step can also be called mindfulness meditation. Sitting down for about 10 minutes I meditate with the help of Headspace. In addition, if I find I am having trouble settling my mind I will also use their Goodnight and Sleep Sounds meditation singles. I am a full subscriber of Headspace and with all of what the app offers; for me, it has more than paid for itself. Also, if you are looking for another blog to follow the Headspace Blog may be right up your alley.
In the midst of all of these steps, children are going back and forth. I am often being bombarded with questions from them or helping my mother. But the good thing about this is I am progressively finding mindful moments that are just for me.
Recently, I have been seeing signs around with the infamous Dr. Seuss hat. Then realizing Dr. Seuss day is just around the corner I began to reminisce. Growing up I always loved looking at the pictures in Dr. Seuss books; and I would be ecstatic when one of the movies would come on TV. The wording in the books would be tricky but fun. And to this day, when I read his books to my kids I still stumble on the unique words sometimes.
The books are about nonsense…
However, a few years back a friend of mine mentioned that she hates Dr. Seuss books, refuses to read them to her children, and will not allow them to read them…EVER. She said this with such clarity and boldness that I knew she was serious. So I asked her why because they just seemed like fun books to me. She then replied with a list, rattling them off with her fingers one by one.
- He doesn’t use correct grammar.
- He uses made-up words.
- The books are about nonsense.
- The books lack storylines.
- The books don’t help the development of language skills.
As the conversation continued, I kind of tuned out and began to question my parenting skills. Am I being a bad parent for reading his books to my kids? Moreover, should I be concerned that I actually enjoy the books for myself every so often? I immediately felt guilty, worried, offended and slightly judged all at the same time. I was saying to myself, “what is the deal with Dr. Seuss?” Come to find out, many people have a grudge against his writing style – a mean a lot of people. Google it and you will see.
but it doesn’t really matter!
Well, it has been about six years since I had the encounter and I have to say… it doesn’t really matter. Both of my kids are school age now and doing just fine in the world of academia. What matters is that you read to your kids. Now that I think about it all the more… I wasted too many brain cells, back then, worrying about someone else’s opinion.
Special thanks to Tamarcus Brown for the photo.
Welcome to 2018, time for resolutions, no resolutions or un-resolution. This year I have opted to have not have a resolution but rather a theme. The theme for this year is:
“Owning me with kindness and empathy.”
The thought behind the theme is owning who I was, who I am and who I will be in the future with the understanding that I am not perfect and still pretty cool anyways. 2017 was a real challenge but it allowed me to see my weaknesses and discover new strength that I had no idea I could muster up. In the past, I often showed outer strength but struggled with internal stability, depression, and anxiety (Yes, I said it!). Often times, I was harder and more critical of myself than anyone else could ever be; while wondering and caring a bit too much about what people thought. But I have to take care of me and you have to take care of you. So this year, resolution or un-resolution is to take me for who I am inside and out.
My hope for all of my followers is to see themselves for who they are and embrace themselves with kindness, understanding, and love that you so well deserve.
FYI – Not sure if I spelled un-resolution right or not. And that is OK.
While this is not the end of all lists to determine if you are a survivalist mom. But if any of these are familiar to you…you may be survivalist mom.
- Menu planner? You tried that, but it just hasn’t worked out. You honestly don’t know what is for dinner. But you know how to put something together without a recipe.
- You dig through baskets of clean laundry for underwear.
- The light over your stove has been broken for months but you keep on cooking. You know in your mind the light is kind of a luxury.
- You don’t mind your kids eating pop tarts or sugary cereal for breakfast. I mean who can resist a bowl of crisp, colorful Froot Loops with cold milk.
- You send money for school photos on the last day they are due; or when the schools sends the notice that you have to pay for all of them if you don’t send them back.
- You monitor you kids fever/illnesses and can quickly evaluate if more attention is needed.
- Your kids may wear pajamas all day long and you may too – you really don’t care sometimes. In fact, you may be wearing your pajamas right now.
- You are tired most of the time but you are used to it. You just try to relax whenever you can.
- On any given day you can find stale Cheetos, an old fruit snack, or hard dried up Play-doh on the floor, under your couch or between the cushions. Please note, this is a distinct difference from having stale Cheerios and old french fries on the floor of your car.
- You always show up and support your kids and family. You have no problem standing up, inadvertently blocking someone else’s view, to get a great picture of your child’s preschool graduation. You know you will turn around and say sorry with smile after you snap the pic.
Survivalist moms love their family and they care about them just as much as the next. These mom’s just have a different perspective on what is important and pick their battles. Also, many survivalist moms don’t try to keep up with “the Jones”. We are ok with who we are and our family just the way they are right now. But don’t be mistaken, we have goals and one of the biggest ones is to be the best mom we know how to be!
This summer we would love to travel out of town for a week vacation. However, with small children, a vacation can mean even more work. As such, this summer, I am looking at having several staycations and home staycations.
What is a staycation? It is a vacation spent locally rather than abroad, or one spent at home that may involve day trips to local attractions. And a home staycation is when you spend it at home. The plan is to survey the kids to discover their desires…right now they include:
- Water balloon fight
- Ice cream sundae bar
- At home movie marathon
- At home facials & manicures
- Go to the movies
- Go to the aquarium
- Go to the zoo
- Go to the pool
- Ride on a train
I am sure they will have more ideas as the week go by. But I think their list is doable and certainly cheaper than what we would spend on a vacation out of town. The rules for the kid’s staycation will be simple.
- No fussing or fighting.
- Have fun.
- Be safe.
Stay tuned, as I will be posting about staycationing for parents next week.